How To Make A Girl Like You

If you want to make a girl likes you, she has to believe that you’re treating her differently. By treating her in a special manner, you’ll make her wonder if you’ve got something more than friends on your mind. Really, why else would you treat one friend differently from the others?

And once you get her thinking, you’ve already set the ball in motion. Both of you may be friends, but the doubt of whether both of you are more than friends would create a tingle of sexual excitement and curiosity that can score you big points while pursuing her sneakily. 

If you want to know how to make a girl like you, you need to stop trying to be a serial flirter. Do you have a friend who flirts with every single girl he meets, even if there are two or more girls at the same time?

Now his flirting abilities may be a gift to die for, but when you publicly flirt with every single friend or girl you meet, you’re not treating one girl any different from the other. All the girls may end up assuming you’re just a serial flirter who just flirts with all his friends.

So there’s an effect in psychology and sociology both, that we like people who are similar to us. I mean, you’re more likely to enjoy spending time with a girl who also likes to watch Stranger Things, than one who would rather spend her time doing something you’ve never heard of.

You can use this to your benefit too!

The trick is to listen to the girl you’re talking to very carefully and simply highlight the things that you have in common. She says she likes country music? Let her know your favorite band!

To get your crush to like you, even do some research beforehand and find out what she likes and check them out... but be genuine. If you say you like something she likes, but are just saying it to win her over she will eventually figure you out. 

Studies have proven this effect over and over again and it can be from things like favorite colors to attitudes, to even haircuts. I suspect this is because if they are more like us, then they are more predictable, and from a psychological perspective our brains think they are safer people.

In a world where your attention can go anywhere, it is one of the most valuable things you can give a girl. If you want her, pay attention to her, and not just for a couple minutes.

Look her in the eyes when she’s talking to you and make mental note of all the stuff she’s talking about, if you can mention it in later conversations, she’ll feel special and start to enjoy your presence.

In my dating course (which I talk about below), I teach you about the 5 levels of listening, from physical sound to empathetic listening. You can really get a girl to fall in love with you once you relate on an emotional level and understand her simply by listening. 

A tip that is the opposite of this is to not give her all of your attention. Some girls will be more attracted to you if you don't bend to her every will. In fact, it's been proven women are more attracted to guys whose feelings aren't clear to them. 

This is a controversial topic in the pickup world, and guys are split about 50/50 on this: 

In my opinion, what really matters is the girl that you're chasing. Option 1 usually works better for a one-night stand. Option 2 usually works better if your goal is a long-term committed relationship. Choose your pickup approach carefully!

Here’s a good subconscious psychological tip that can work amazingly well in many situations. Touch her shoulder, ask her for something and grab it out of her hand, or make up some game that requires touch and play it with her, like rock paper scissors.

Come up with a cool handshake if you have to. The idea is to make her know that you’re willing to touch her in a nonsexual way because you feel comfortable around her and to get her reaction.

If she seems disgusted or scared, don’t touch her anymore.

Tell her a secret about you, something personal that not very many people know. This will open the door for trust and as you tell her things about you, she will notice that you trust her, which in turn will make her trust you more.

Psychologically, we like and trust people who trust us first, because we have a natural instinct to be wary of new people and to not trust them. So when you prove you trust her, she will start to reciprocate in the same fashion.

If you're finding yourself wondering "how do I get her to like me?", then start with tip #1 and by the time you're to this step, you should be able to gain her trust with a secret. 

I recommend telling her secrets you’d be okay with if other people knew just in case she tells someone, but make sure they are personal, and that they would be considered a secret.

Bonus points for things that are slightly embarrassing as well. Something like you have 11 toes or you’re voting for Trump should do fine. Just remember that girls love it when you tell them secrets. 

I’ll be making a video soon on some amazing secret tips that you can do each day to boost your confidence game. This has a lot to do with being self-aware and knowing what makes you feel awkward and insecure and working on yourself to improve this and become more secure and confident in who you are as a person.

The best general advice I can give you to become more confident and to make a girl like you is to work out regularly. If you’re in middle or high school, I suggest weightlifting 3 days a week: arms, legs, and core, or some cardio.

If you're trying to get a girl to like you in high school, and especially if you're in college, you can get into more advanced workout schedules and supplements. This goes back to tip #1: work on yourself. 

Girls love it when a guy shows that he's not offended or constantly worrying about what other people think. If you're here searching for how to get girls to like you, then being more confident in your thoughts and your actions is a surefire way to be more attractive to anyone.

I once heard a story about a guy who was on steroids (yeah, I wouldn't recommend it), but his confidence was so insane he just went up to like 7-8 women on the spot and asked them out in a week. All of them said yes.

Later, when he was off his cycle... he asked them why they agreed so quickly (because he wasn't the most attractive and wasn't used to girls showing interest in him). They answered in different ways, but they all said they loved his confidence and just felt like he would be a great boyfriend. Note: this is anecdotal evidence and you should take it as that. 

If you have any more tips on how to get a girl to like you, leave a comment below and I'd love to add them to help more people.

Now, I know the video I originally created was only 10 tips, but because this article and video have gone so viral, I've decided to add a few more tips to help make a girl attracted to you.

This is, literally the foundation of starting a great relationship and will give you the starting base to make her like you. Think of it like this. Let's say someone is trying to sell you this amazing new book with all kinds of secret life formulas in it that will make you rich, happy, get a 6 pack in 3 days, and become a new world leader.

Well, you buy it because the marketing and packaging of the book look great, but then you open it, and all it says is “life is short, you don’t need these things, buy more books for better advice”.

To be truly attractive, you need to have your own life by working on yourself!

When you are trying to get in a relationship or make a girl like you and you have a boring life, this is literally what you are doing. You are making the packaging look great, but in reality... you have no life. 

Imagine having such an amazing life and doing awesome things that you say, “Hey girl, I really like you and enjoy having you around, wanna stick around?” and that’s all it takes. Make your own personal life interesting and girls will flock.

Here’s another super interesting tip that is hard to find elsewhere on the internet. Literally having just one passion will make you seem more interesting, plus it adds respect to tip #1, you’re starting your own life.

Your hobby can be anything that you’re passionate about, just make sure it’s a true passion and not faked. If I said I loved chainsaws and carving chainsaw art in my free time, but I actually didn’t, the sparkle won’t be there and the girl won’t see it.

The trick with passions is that you should actually start with something you enjoy, and then keep working on it. The better you get with that task, and the more you improve your skill... the more of a passion it will become and the more attractive a girl might find you practicing it.

One study says that having any hobby, even if it's sexual in nature will improve your attractiveness to a potential date. 

When you are actually passionate about something, your girl will notice. There’s something infinitely sexy about a guy with an intense passion for something. It could be programming, motorcycling, cooking, drawing, reading, playing an instrument, and anything else that suits your fancy, just put the time in. Bonus points if you create something in the process. 

Okay, guys. Number one tip to instantly make a girl attracted. Smell good. I don’t even mean smell amazing, you just have to smell decent.

Go take a shower, rub body soap all over you. Twice. Shampoo your hair, dry yourself off, apply deodorant, put clean clothes on, and you’re set. No need to douse yourself with half a gallon of Axe bodyspray like a middle-schooler in love with a girl he likes, you just have to smell presentable.

You can, though, buy some cologne and spray one squirt. Two squirts max. On yourself (not on your clothes). I recommend one on the wrist and one near your neckline. This is all it takes to smell great, and girls fall for great-smelling guys all the time.

Honestly, this trick alone is enough to more than double your chances of getting a date with a girl.

So this is definitely a secret tip, and maybe even a bit manipulative, but definitely not anything evil or negative. Just ask her to do something for you. There is a psychological effect called the Benjamin Franklin effect that goes like this.

You ask a girl to do something for you, she does it, she subconsciously likes you a bit more. You might be asking "why though". Well, when we do stuff for people, our brain thinks since we do something for someone, we must like them.

Benjamin Franklin used this technique on his rivals and political opponents to get them to like him more. It worked so well, they named it the Benjamin Franklin Effect.

Also, something called the consistency bias. After someone has done something for you a couple times, they’re more likely to do more for you just because they don’t want to look inconsistent.

Tip: ask for things like picking up a pencil, for notes in class, giving someone a paper, and even small errands. Don’t overdo it though or she will feel like you’re using her.

This is a great tip!

You may think you’re not funny, but the truth is everyone can be funny if they try. You have to put yourself in enough situations to get used to the awkwardness of telling an unfunny joke enough that you have the confidence to tell more jokes around people.

Girls love laughing (there are tons of studies on this - humor is very closely related to high social status), and the more you can make them laugh, the higher up in the social chain you will seem.

 It proves that you’re intellectually strong and humorous, which is a desirable trait in a future mate. Also, this will give you a chance to see where her eyes are going when she laughs, to tell if she is interested in you.

A great way to tell if a girl likes you or is romantically interested in you is to look where her eyes dart when she laughs. If her eyes dart at you first when she laughs, she probably likes you at a subconscious level. 

This is an amazing trick to make anyone your girlfriend, but it'll also make guys like you too, increasing your rank on the dominance hierarchy... and ultimately increasing your status in a girl's eyes.  

Tease Her

Imagine if you came up to a girl and you were super direct: “Hey, I find you physically attractive and I’d like to get to know your personality to see if we could be long-term partners, potentially for life. Would you like to go on an initial date to see if we enjoy spending time with each other?” That sounds a bit robotic, but at least it's genuine. 

The best way to get the same point across is to tease her a little. “I really like you, but I don’t really know that much about you… I mean, you’re simply gorgeous, but you could have horrible taste in movies and that’s just a big turnoff. How about you pick a movie to watch for Saturday night, I’ll buy it and some popcorn, and we can call it a date?”. 

Wondering how to tease a girl can be difficult, especially for many inexperienced guys who don't understand boundaries. If you have any advice on how to tease a woman, please leave a comment below.

If you’re ready to ask a girl out on a date, one of the best first dates to go on is to cook her dinner. This will show her you know how to take care of her, but also gives you a chance to show off your mad cooking skills.

Doing simple stuff like this is the very foundation of attraction. 

The show, don't tell

One of the largest problems I see that guys make, is they are all bark and no bite. What do I mean by this? They tell a girl they love them and can say all the right words to make a girl fall for them, but after “the deal is sealed”, they just stop. They don’t put forth any more effort. Instead, continue showing your girlfriend how much she means to you. 

If you really want to get a girl to like you, you need to invest in her.

This means with your time, your money, and your emotions.

Cut time out of your day specifically for her and listen to her using the 5th level of listening (empathetic listening). Invest in her with your money. Buy her things that you know will make her smile, and spend money on experiences you both can enjoy. Lastly, you must be willing to invest in her emotionally… this means you must be vulnerable and be okay with sharing your emotions and feelings.